andabye.com is a event ticketing and social platform dedicated to real-life social experiences
we have democratized event creation and ticketing making it as easy for anyone to host events as Twitter(X) made it to create and monetize tweets
By empowering organizers to curate unique experiences, andabye.com enables consumers (ticket buyers) to discover social events in their community, and connect with peers around shared interests. whether it is a small dinner get Together
Why a platform like us 👍 ?
For many young people in Africa, human interaction is not on their list of daily activities.
Today's generation is not comfortable engaging in real life social activities, but not all of them are necessarily lonely, according to recent studies
Most millennials and Gen-Z are more or less social phobia put it simple we fear socialising with others and many have reported avoiding social activities at least once, due to either fear, anxiety or boredom.
However, on the other side , many are said to be enjoying being alone – they live alone, build social networks online and said they get joy from the virtual world.
How we went all virtual?
Millennials (defined as between the ages of 24-39) and Gen-Z (18-23) in africa have witnessed great changes in the continent different from our parents in terms of social behaviors and values.
Most of us grew up in the 1990s where our parents were busy participating in the urbanization and economic taking-off of many nations in africa. Cities have also transformed traditional africa families to smaller units made up of dad, mom and one child.
It's been argued that this generation therefore can feel less personally connected to relatives, friends and neighbors.
We Prefer to be online, but this has got to change if we are to build really meaningful relationships
While our generation is definitely internet savvy as we started to use cell phones, messaging tools, and search engines at a very young age. Compared with meeting up friends in a physical place, we prefer to reach out to people virtually and get things done. The all-scenario social apps penetrate every corner of our life, 24/7 social platforms cover our daily life – from making friends, learning to work and shopping
It's absolute truth too. we appreciate the convenience brought by technologies but we lose the chance to understand the charm of human interactions at the same time.
One would argue "It is kind of a social etiquette for us to not bother," "we would't say we fear social life – when everything can be done online via WhatsApp or Facebook or Instagram, we just don't call or meet people. The key is to keep proper social distance, and leave some space and liberty for each other. "
It's a choice and it is upon us to change
From tools such as instagram, whatsapp, twitter(x) and other social media tools have shaped how we, the younger generation in africa connect with the world.
Let's imagine if you had to spend three hours on the road to meet a friend after being overworked the whole week, will you choose to rest at home talking to them via messaging tools? Given what it costs to social in real life, young african rather enjoy the hustle and bustle online.
However, this kind of interaction has got to fundamentally change
We all want to save time and trouble. But "when families and friends get together without heart-to-heart communications, students keep online chatting in classes, and lovers are afraid of saying 'I love you' unless on social media, which we can call 'alone together',".
This indicates people are very possibly living in their own bubbles, using social media to keep the unceasing connection with the real-world though they feel deeper aloofness. Some African young people use the connection to cure themselves as physical social life sometimes can't lead to open conversation and quality communications. But some are just enhancing social media use out of the desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing and the concern that others are having a "good time" without them.
Let us take it and Keep it real
While social media may help people avoid pressure and awkwardness in real life, this online interactions may be too easy for the digitally savvy. Livestreams and chat rooms make it easy to make it seem like there's social interactions going on, but it could also be unconsciously locking a lot of young people into a circle of narrowness, extremity and isolation. Online or offline, it is definitely not a good sign in terms of having a mature social life
Walking out of a comfort zone to welcome real connection with human beings is the key to settling social phobias. Given what we can't change, we might instead change how we think about the situation. Coming to the real-life social environment is an inevitable step for learning how to deal with stress, which is a skill that can be improved and developed over the course of a lifetime.
I end by saying "Go to taste the bitterness and love from this world of human affairs. You may experience stress, sorrow and complication, but they altogether form a real world. You'll get a safety net once acquire abilities to deal with those emotions, pure comfort cannot help you get to there.
And that is why a platform 👏 like us exists to revolutionize how we feel and enjoy real-life social experiences.